Sunday, May 27, 2012

BATAK TRADITIONAL WEDDING

On Saturday we went to a traditional Batak wedding.  We did not know the couple, but President Jensen who had served previously as a mission president in Indonesia knew the family well, so we were invited.   It was a very interesting cultural experience. 

The Batak people are a tribe of people that originally come from the Northern part of the island of Sumatra.  Their weddings are very elaborate. In fact, this wedding and the invitation were the most extravagant I have ever seen. 

When we arrived at the reception hall we were taken to a private room.  We soon realized what an honor that was, as the room was cool and quiet.  When we heard the announcement that the processional was going to begin we were able to peek over the stairway as the bride and groom came through the crowd of people. The women at the wedding were dressed in beautiful bright outfits. Unfortunately, I (Eileen) just had missionary clothes and fairly underdressed.  The bride was gorgeous, with elaborate makeup, her hair done up with fresh flowers wound into her hair, and a lacy dress on.  The sister of the bride (who we did not know, but was dressed in the most sophistecated dress I have ever seen) pulled us to the head of the procession, and whispered in my ear that 1500 people had been invited to the reception. We then joined the procession of people walking to the front of the hall. There were vast tables of food set up.  The bride and groom walked to the front where their parents joined them.  This was a Christian wedding and a man was singing Christian songs with a lot of Hallelujahs and Amens during the whole procession. 

Apparently, everything must be done very orderly at a Batak wedding.  The family is seated exactly according to how close they are to the immediate family.  Within the families they are seated by age.  When the water buffalo is served complete with head and tail, the portion you get is determined on what status you have with the tribe.  The most important standing gets the head.  There were two axes on the bottom of the water buffalo to help with serving. 

While the singing was going on people lined up in a very organized way and danced up and down the aisles to the couple. They had colorful bags of rice on their heads, which was then poured into a bigger bag to give as a gift symbolizing fertility to the new couple. This event was planned to go on for a period of 4-5 hours.  It was extremely warm in the room and I was grateful when we were taken up to our small air conditioned room with our private buffet where the bride and groom visited us individually.

On our way out, we had the typical problem with parking.  Since there is not enough parking spots in most public places in Indonesia, people will park in front of other’s cars and block them in.  No problem.  Cars are parked and left in neutral. That way if somebody needs to move it they can. The guys just pushed the cars out of the way and we got our car out and left.  We have also seen this done in shopping mall parking lots. 



SIGN HERE PLEASE-I WASN'T NOTIFIED OF THE COLOR SCHEME


FROM THE STAIRWAY

AFTER THE PROCESSION

DANCERS


FAMILY LINE
FRONT END OF THE BUFFALO BEING PREPARED


BACK END OF BUFFALO, SAUCES BELOW


PICTURE WITH THE BRIDE AND GROOM
THE BRIDE'S DRESS WAS VERY ORNATE

ELDER SUBANDRIYO PROTECTING HIS NICE CLOTHES

GOTTA GET OUT OF THE PARKING LOT SOMEHOW

TURNING THE CORNER

At this time of the year we have traditionally gone to nursery/garden stores, picked out some flowers and other plants.  Russell has then planted those flowers in our garden while I have admired the beauty of his efforts.  That personal effort was part of what made our house our home.  Although there is an abundance of beautiful foliage where we live we did not have any in our apartment.  I didn’t realize how much I (Eileen) missed some of the personal touches from home in our living accommodations.  Our apartment is well furnished and decorated in modern décor.  It just isn’t our décor.  Yesterday Russell and I went out to a local nursery and bought some plants and flowers for the balcony of our apartment. It is amazing how such a small thing has made our apartment seem more like home.  

Last night I called home to wish my father Happy Birthday for his 88th birthday and he asked if we celebrated Memorial Day here. I had completely forgotten about the holiday as it is not celebrated here - the days just seem to run together.  This morning before we left for church I enjoyed the peace of sitting on our balcony amidst “my garden” looking over the cemetery below and thinking about my sister Julie.  Julie passed away unexpectedly last October while scuba diving.  I know that through the resurrection of Jesus Christ that she and all mankind will be resurrected.  I felt a peaceful assurance that Julie was aware of where I was and was proud of me for what I was doing.  Perhaps I need to take the time to ponder and meditate more often.

Today marks the seventh week we have been here.  It has been a whirlwind of events and change in our life.  We have both had our challenges with this change.  It is probably a combination of culture shock, adjusting on both our parts to recently leaving our former professions and being together 24/7.  For a variety of reasons it has not been easy for us.  The words of the hymn I'll Go Where You Want Me To Go, to "go" and "do" and "say," are easier to sing than to live.  

While we report to our mission president, President Groberg, on ecclesiastical matters, unlike the other senior couple missionaries we report to the country (Indonesia and Malaysia) manager (Subandriyo) for our daily welfare/humanitarian duties.  This past week we talked with him about our feelings and challenges.  In addition to his day job as the country manager, Elder Subandriyo is also an Area Seventy, a position he has held for approximately 10 years.  In our church being an Area Seventy is a position above a stake president, covering a specific geographic area, and below a world-wide General Authority.  We both have a great deal of admiration for Elder Subandriyo.  Sister Healy refers to him as a modern day Job. He has had a great deal of adversity in his life and yet continues to smile, serve others, and never complain.  Despite his busy schedule Elder Subandriyo listened attentively to what we had to say.  Although empathetic to our situation, he didn’t just say that he would lighten our load by taking away certain of our duties. Rather, he said that the Lord had called us here and that our previous life experiences had prepared us for the duties which have been assigned to us.  We then had a very sacred conversation after which he gave us both priesthood blessings.  A priesthood blessing can be given for the healing of the sick or also in times of challenge.  It is given as the word of God and is dependent on the worthiness and the faith of the person receiving the blessing.  At that point in time we desperately needed to find peace.  The blessing was a great source of power and healing from God.  We both left that day with a renewed ability to perform our mission duties in the way that the Lord would have us do it.  

In the Book of Mormon (Mosiah 24:14-15), our Lord said to his people "I will also ease the burdens which are put upon your shoulders, that even you cannot feel them upon your backs . . . that ye may stand as witnesses for me hereafter . . . And now it came to pass that the burdens which were laid upon (them) were made light; yea the Lord did strengthen them that they could bear up their burdens with ease, and they did submit cheerfully and with patience to all the will of the Lord."

Our hope is that we can cheerfully submit to the will of the Lord.  We know that everything will not always be perfect or fun, but we can and will have a positive attitude and find joy in our mission work.

Today we had the opportunity to witness the baptism of Tony.  He is the second baptism this week in our ward.  Tony found our church while surfing the internet. He found www.mormon.org and made contact with the church and started visiting with the missionaries.  We were happy to see the new start he has made in his life.
OUR PLANTS BEING PLANTED

READY FOR TRANSPORT!
NEGOTIATING A PURCHASE PRICE


MISSIONARIES WITH THEIR WARUNG FOOD



TONY BEFORE GETTING BAPTIZED


Sunday, May 20, 2012

THE LORD'S HANDS/HELP FROM HONG KONG

It has been said that often God answers our prayers through the kind acts of others.  Sometimes he even sees fit to help us with things we have not yet expressed through prayer.  Since we have arrived in Indonesia we have struggled with dealing with a large number of active humanitarian projects, and other assignments given to us.  At times it has been quite overwhelming.  It was with mixed feelings that we learned that our supervisors from Hong Kong were coming to visit us for 6 days to train us.  We felt like we desperately needed the time to catch up.  We had been traveling outside of the office for 2 weeks, including a period of 9 nights in 7 different beds prior to their arrival. We assumed the polite thing to do was to invite them over for dinner on Mother's Day after church.  This was the first time I (Eileen) haven't been with my children on Mother's day for over 30 years.  Russell usually cooks dinner and it is my day off.  As it turned out the Meehan's were enjoyable to be with and an answer to our prayers, expressed and unexpressed.

For most of Sunday afternoon and Monday rather than sticking with their scheduled training, the Meehans (our supervisor's from Hong Kong),  spent the time answering our questions, which made us feel that they were more concerned with our needs than their agenda.  We were asked the first week we were here to teach at youth conference in June about the dangers of pornography.  This has been a great stress to both of us, as it would be a difficult topic to teach in English, but to teach in a foreign language was beyond our comprehension.  Neither of us have worked with Young Men or Young Women other than raising our own children.  Last Sunday, shortly after the Meehans arrived, Russell was approached by one of the youth leaders with an agenda for the conference.   Russell's ability to read Indonesian may  not be the best, but it was good enough to realize that the two of us weren't teaching the class on combating pornography together, it would just be him.  I (Eileen) would be teaching a class on first aid for an hour to the young women, while he taught the young men and then we would swap audiences and repeat the hour long presentation.   This  was a huge surprise to both of us.  Although he remained calm outwardly, I know Russell well enough that I could see the panic in his eyes.  I was relieved to be speaking on a topic that was very familiar to me.

When we met the Meehans Sunday afternoon we mentioned our concerns.  Elder Meehan made some suggestions regarding a presentation and told Russell that if Russell could come up with the content he could help prepare a powerpoint presentation.   It turns out that Elder Meehan is a computer whiz.  While he helped Russell make up the presentation, Sister Meehan and I were surfing the web as fast as we could trying to find resources to use.  During the process of preparing the content for this presentation, I found a website regarding combating pornography. The site is www.fightthenewdrug.org.  I would recommend the site to anyone that needs to teach youth about the evils of pornography.

During the week we took Elder and Sister Meehan on two visits to potential humanitarian project partners.  The first was with NU (an Indonesian Islamic group with 70 million members which focuses on health issues).  We also visited with a women's group in Bogor that is proposing a cleft lip/cleft palate project.  The mountains near Bogor are the site of the recent plane crash, a Russian made jet liner,  that killed a number of people while on a demonstration flight.  We are not sure how this will affect sales of the plane but it can't be good for business.  We tried to get pictures of the mountains behind Bogor but due to the heavy rain, they didn't turn out so we will show some that others have taken.  If you are interested in reading the Meehan's blog for this week it is called Hooray for the Healys.  The link  is at www.meehansinchina.blogspot.com

Since coming back from Central Java Russell started eating at the warungs again (like he did 36 years ago). These are small stalls that sell food.  I am not really interested in eating there but don't mind looking.  This particular warung that we have pictures of is near the mission office.  The acronym for it's name is BYU.   Two sister missionaries arrived from the MTC this week.  The new red headed sister missionary got a lot of stares as we walked up the street together.  In fact two guys on a motorcycle slowed down and just kept staring at her while they were driving. I guess there aren't many redheads here!  Fortunately there weren't many cars on the road Thursday and so there wasn't an accident.

Site of plane crash
This past Thursday and Friday were holidays.  Thursday celebrated Jesus' ascension into heaven.  It was amazing how empty the roads were. On Wednesday night the cab ride from the office home took 70 minutes.  On Thursday morning it took less than 10 minutes to get to our office.  We kind of wish all days could be holidays.
Searching for the plane in Bogor

Women's group in Bogor


Russell at the Local Warung

Choose your Dish

It's like Costco-you get a sample before you buy

At the NU with Elder Subandriyo and Meehans





Saturday, May 12, 2012

SENIOR COUPLES CONFERENCE



Earlier this week we had the opportunity of attending a senior couple’s conference in Bali with the other missionaries that are serving in Indonesia.  Currently there are two couples in Surabaya, one couple in each of the areas of Solo, Jogja, and Manado.  Manado is on Sulawesi, an island northeast of Java.  Four couples are serving in Jakarta, the mission president, an office couple, a local couple helping with the Perpetual Education Fund and ourselves working with the humanitarian projects.  The couple from Manado came a long distance.  They are quite isolated. Geographically they are closer to the Phillipines than they are to Jakarta.  Each couple led one or more discussions on  topics  varying from religious themes to dealing with culture shock.  We realize that despite the fact that we have lived abroad and traveled extensively we were (still are) dealing with some aspects of adjusting to our new home. 

BEATIFUL BALI
 It was great to listen to our mission president and his wife, get to know the other couples (one of which had just arrived from Australia two days earlier, it is their second mission to Indonesia).  Referring to John 17, President Groberg talked about the importance of becoming one with God and one with our brothers and sisters here on earth.  One of the other couples noted that we couldn’t really fully serve the people of Indonesia until we first grew to love them.  We believe that regardless of the message we are trying to share, be it religious, humanitarian, or educational in nature, it will be very difficult to be heard unless the recipient knows that he or she is loved and appreciated.  Russell says he has a lot of work to do in this area. His prior profession focused on quantitative, usually financial results.  Whereas his (our) new profession focuses on relationships and more qualitative factors.

EQUIPMENT FOR HOSPITALS IN PATI AND DEMAK

HOSPITAL DIRECTOR IN DEMAK, DR NUNUK AND EILEEN
WATER TREATMENT IN BACK OF HOSPITAL
PREEMIE BABY IN ISOLETTE
RADIOLOGIST WITH 20 YEAR OLD XRAY MACHINE, HUMANITARIAN FUNDS WILL BE USED TO BE A NEW MACHINE
EILEEN MISSES HER GRANDKIDS
OLD LAB MACHINE WE ARE REPLACING WITH HUMANITARIAN FUNDS




We visited two hospitals that are operated by the NU.   This is the large Islamic organization we have referred to in our earlier post.  We felt very welcome at both hospitals. They probably don't get a lot of foreign visitors.   Both hospitals are in a rural area.  I (Eileen) was impressed at the cleanliness of both hospitals.  When I mentioned this, the director of housekeeping who was at our meeting had a huge smile on her face.  

The reason for our visit was to talk about the donation of equipment that our church will be giving.  At one hospital we are going to be giving a new x-ray machine.  We took a tour of the hospital.  When I saw the x-ray machine we were replacing, I understood the need for a new one.  It was old and well used.  The "cassettes", I believe we call the cartridges, were 20 years old, as was the machine.  They were delighted when we asked if they would like some new cassettes to go with the machine they would be receiving.

When we visited the emergency room a 60 year old man had just passed away.  It was uncomfortable  for us, we felt as if we were infringing on a very tender moment as his family was gathered around him mourning. He had passed away of a heart attack on a local bus.  But even if it had happened in the hospital it may have not turned out any different as they have no defibrillator in the emergency room.  That is on our list to donate to them next year.  It would be a frustrating experience for a doctor to be in.  I looked at their medications for resuscitation and they looked pretty complete, but you can only work with the equipment you have.

The second hospital we went to was receiving some new lab equipment (again about 20 years old), a defibrillator and 3 monitors.  In the emergency room a woman was very, very ill.  She had come in after having an appendectomy and looked like she was septic. Hopefully, they were able to take care of the situation. She didn't look very old to me.  It gave me motivation to make sure they get the equipment we have promised to them ASAP.

This hospital has also requested help with waste fluid management.  Local regulations are getting stricter here just like in the US.  So, the hospital is working on getting some bids to upgrade their waste water treatment.  While viewing the current waste treatment system, Eileen and the locals were concerned that Russell was going to fall into one of the treatment pools.

The thing that really impressed me (Eileen) with both hospitals is that they were really doing their best with what they had.  Everything was very clean and the nurses and doctors seemed well educated.  The medical director for the second hospital, Dr. Nunuk, and I seemed to form an instant friendship.  Maybe I just needed some "girl time" after spending two days traveling in a car with three men but it sure felt good to talk with another woman about my same age with a common medical background. 




   






WHEELCHAIRS FOR THE LAME



 On Wednesday of last week we had a great day with an established NGO partner named UCP.   We started early in the morning and had a full day.  The interesting thing about UCP (United Cerebral Palsy) is that many of their employees are individuals with disabilities themselves.  The social worker that accompanied us throughout the day was paralyzed 15 years ago in a motorcycle accident. She told us that she was homebound for 10 years until she was able to get a wheelchair and a motorcycle that had accommodations for a wheelchair.  She told us that it made all the difference in her life, as she could then be self-sufficient, working on her own.  As I talked with her I was impressed with her positive, enthusiastic attitude she had towards life.  She shares her stories with her clients, and they see that although she is disabled, she can carry on a full life.  It gives them hope for the future. Two years ago she attended a camp in Park City, Utah for people with disabilities. It was the first time she had ever visited the U.S.  There she learned to ride a horse, water ski, and even went on the zip line.  While we visited together, she invited me to have a ride on her motorcycle. Of course I said yes!  I never thought I would ride sidesaddle on a motorcycle while a paralyzed woman drove!

We started our day with this NGO by by visiting a family with two children with cerebral palsy.  The daughter had developed CP after she had a bad seizure when she was one years old.  She had pretty significant physical challenges, and was unable to go to school. The other boy didn't look very disabled in his wheelchair until he got up to use his walker. Then I realized how many challenges he was facing. I was very proud of him as I watched to see how much he struggled with each step he took.  It was a painful process, but he did it.  Our church has provided 1500 wheelchairs and also walkers through this NGO.  The great thing is that instead of just handing out the wheelchairs, each wheelchair is custom fitted by a physical therapist. That way, each need is individually met. Each family is visited by a social worker.  Follow up is provided, and warranties are provided for the wheelchairs.  Some of the wheelchairs are called rough riders, and we were shown how a grown man could stand on the foot rest and the wheelchair wouldn't flip.  The rough riders  is for those that might have to go through rough terrain, or down steps.  They have heavy duty wheels attached.  

During the day we  saw 4 children fit for wheelchairs.  One old grandma came in carrying her grandson.  Two fathers came in carrying their sons.  One mother came in carrying her 8 year old son.  The 8 year old boy told us that he wants to be a motorcycle mechanic or motorcycle racer, he wasn't sure.  He loves math and scored 98% on his last math test.  He said he is excited to have his wheelchair because now he can play with his friends, and go even faster than they go.  

At the end of the day, we ended up at the wheelchair warehouse and assembly site.  All of the men working on the wheelchairs were disabled, some without legs, others without the use of their legs. It was inspiring to see an organization that was giving work to those that they were also trying to help.  

I felt good about the day.  We didn't make the lame walk, but they weren't being carried any more.  




physical therapists checking client
local children
CP client with wheelchair




Motorcycle mechanic wannabe
visiting with family of two children above
motorcycle ride  notice wheelchair
wheelchair and walker recipient


new wheelchair before fitting

CLEAN WATER PROJECT AND FUN WITH THE KIDS


Water project location
Closeup of  typical bathing facility
On Monday and Tuesday we went to an area outside Solo where our church has a major clean water project in process.  The project is done in cooperation with the local villages.  Our church  provides funds to buy the materials and construction management while the villages provide the manual labor and a local water committee to manage and maintain the facilities after construction.  The water comes from high on the mountain and flows through PVC pipes to concrete reservoirs and plastic tanks which branch out to supply water to several villages.  In each village there are several community washing, bathing and toilet facilities (MCK's) which receive the water, approximately two dozen in total.  Water is also available to be piped into each house for a small monthly fee of about 50 cents.  The individual home hook-up is voluntary and is managed by the local water committee.  The price is set to cover the cost of maintaining the system. Currently, community members carry water two times a day, sometimes quite a distance, to obtain their water.  It is expected that the project will benefit over 28,000 individuals.
House with community bathing facility in front yard

Water tank at top of hill
MCK under construction
New Facility (MCK)
While Russell was out hiking up the mountain and observing the status of the project, EIleen went to two local schools and worked with the children.  It is beautiful in Central Java.  The air was clear and we could see Mount Merapi clearly.  Mount Merapi is a volcano that blew it's top a couple of years ago, and caused quite a few deaths and a lot of damage to the area.  The location of our project is on an adjacent mountain side.

Village street
Main water reservoir
New  water tank
Typical locals
I (Eileen) was able to go to two schools, and a couple of mother- infant health clinics to do nutritional counseling.  When I arrived at the school with my translator and another sister missionary, the children came running out of their classrooms and were all waving hi to us.  I wasn't sure how to gain control of the situation as there were 700 elementary school age children the first day.  I started singing the first few words to a song I had heard before called Di Sini Senang.  It means I am happy here. All of a sudden, 700 children joined together in singing the song.  It was beautiful.  Good thing, as I didn't know all the words. I also started singing a song about climbing the mountain which I learned from my Indonesian tutor.  All the children sang along.  It was very appropriate as I soon learned some of the children had to walk 2 hours to get to school.  The mountain was very steep, and at times it rains very hard in Indonesia.  It made me feel a lot of empathy towards these children. They must really want to be educated.

I was taken into a classroom with 125 children, some with 5 to a desk.  They were all of the 5th and 6th grade classes combined for my presentation.  I used glitter to teach them about germs.  I put different colors of glitter on each child's hands and then had them shake each others hand. They loved seeing the glitter transfer from one person to the next.  Then they all practiced hand washing in a bucket.

Local Women
Later I went to a mother/infant clinic.  The children seemed well nourished, but many babies had heads with the backs of their heads flat. We talked about the importance of tummy time. Many mothers were concerned that if they put their babies on their stomachs, their children would get a stomach ache, or they might have something worse happen.
Waiting for our arrival
With new toothbrushes

Children brushing teeth

Eileen teaching antismoking

On Tuesday when I arrived at the school the children were all lined up in a row, military style. I told the teacher that we could go in the shade which we finally did.  We went over hygiene, gave each child a toothbrush and toothpaste, and some children of the children practiced toothbrushing.  We also talked about the importance of not smoking. When I asked how many of the children's father's smoked, every single child raised their hand.  I conducted a puppet show with the interpreter. One puppet had pink lungs, and the other had black lungs.  The interpreter's puppet wanted my puppet to smoke with her because it was cool, then I said (in my best Indonesian with the puppet) why it wasn't cool.  Soon the children were laughing, and at the end, they all repeated together "just don't smoke", and got a sticker.  We then taught some English songs to the children which they loved....the Hokey Pokey, Happy Birthday, Do As I Am Doing, and some others.  The children had fun and so did we.  At both schools we were asked if we could come back and teach English on a regular basis. It is too far away for us to go, but perhaps the other missionary couple might go.

On the second day there were some problems at the maternal clinic with babies being sick and malnourished. The mothers asked why their babies always coughed.  I suggested that perhaps they might try and keep their babies away from cigarette smoke, and also the fertilizer in the fields as they hold their babies in their arms as they fertilizer the fields.

Hokey pokey-where are your ears?
It was great to be with the children. They are beautiful, friendly and eager to learn.