ONE CHECK OR TWO?

Last night Eileen and I went out to dinner.  As neither of us had eaten all the food we had ordered we asked our waitress for carryout boxes.  She asked us, “One box?” To which I replied, “Two.”  Since what each of us had ordered was quite different, putting them in the same box would mess with the flavors of our respective leftovers.  When time came for our bill, our waitress asked if we would be paying together or separate checks.  That made Eileen laugh and may have embarrassed the young waitress. Eileen told we have been married almost 48 years.  I guess as neither of us were wearing wedding rings and we had asked for separate boxes, she didn’t want to assume we were married.  While I felt bad that our waitress was a bit embarrassed, it was good to see Eileen smile and hear her laugh.

Four weeks ago, we were in Berlin, attending church with a former missionary to Indonesia I had served with over 50 years ago.  His wife is serving as the Mission Health Advisor (MHA or nurse) for the Berlin mission and is also serving remotely as the MHA for the mission in Poland.  When Eileen told her that she had served in that role during our last two missions, Sister Stephens said maybe they should have Eileen take care of Poland after she leaves in September.  The fanciful thought pleased Eileen, but the improbability of it ever happening caused her to dismiss the thought.

Less than two weeks ago, Eileen was coming into work a little later than I did.  She happened to get a ride to the office with our Area Medical Advisor, Elder Boud and his wife.  During that short car ride, Elder Boud mentioned the great need the Area had for MHAs.  He said we had half a dozen missions which didn’t have one.  Eileen mentioned her brief conversation with Sister Stephens about Poland.  

Since that short drive to the office, one thing has led to another and now Eileen, in addition to her Welfare/Humanitarian role will also be the MHA for the new France Paris South Mission when the MHA in Paris goes home in early September.  Eileen is thrilled!  I will carry most of the load up of our Welfare/Humanitarian duties and Eileen will travel with me when needed.  As she says, she can work remotely from the road as easily as she can work remotely from our office in Frankfurt.  I believe we have found the “reset” we needed, something I mentioned searching for just three short weeks ago.  I am grateful for a loving Father in Heaven who hears and answers our prayers.

Once it looked like there was a possibility of Eileen becoming an MHA, she told another sister in our group who is also a nurse.  It turns out she had tried a couple of months ago to purse such an arrangement but had abandoned the effort once confronting internal department challenges.  She quickly followed Eileen’s efforts and is now going to be the MHA for the Romania and Hungary missions.  Elder and Sister Sutterfield’s Welfare/Humanitarian assignment countries are Romania. Bulgaria and Greece, so the Romania overlap is beneficial.  With our other two couples doing Welfare/Humanitarian in Frankfurt (Johnsons and Muellecks) going home soon, Elder Sutterfield and I will be the only experienced missionary resources we have in Frankfurt.  It will be busy, but our wives are happy!     

We had Elder and Sister Hoffmeier over for dinner and then Russell did some training. They are our new Welfare-Self Reliance couple in southern Germany. 

 

The battle of the sexes FHE was well attended. 

Elder and Sister Parks did one last FHE on Monday night with a fun game of Battle of the Sexes.  The Elders won by a couple of points.  We will miss them. Sister Parks has been a great friend to me (Eileen).  The Parks have been transferred to the Philippines where they will help with the mental health needs of the missionaries serving there. 

One of our missionaries snapped this photo right outside our apartment.  There were guesses if the planet by the moon was Jupiter or Venus.

Elder and Sister Richards arrived in Frankfurt this past week. They have previously served in Hungary and will be replacing the Johnsons who go home within the next week. 

We had the Richards and Muellecks over for dinner this past week. Russell prepared bruschetta, Caprese and avocado salad, tortellini served with sauce containing fresh herbs from our garden, and Sister Muelleck brought a huge salad and strawberry torte.  We don't typically eat like this, but it was a fabulous dinner. Well done, Russell and Sister Muelleck!

This was not one of the smarter things I have seen. These boys were on the autobahn where cars were going past at freeway speeds. 

We did a quick getaway trip for 24 hours to Rothenberg.  The hotel on the left is where we stayed. It was pretty warm as there is no AC in most of Germany and it was in the mid 90s.  Hitler dined at Hotel Eisenhut on April 16, 1935.  

Rothenberg is a medieval town.  This house is called the Plonein and inspired the house in the movie Pinocchio. The town was enchanting. 

The city wall with towers.

The medieval wall in Rothenberg stretches for 4km around the city and has over 40 towers.  The wall dates back to the year 1142.

A view of the city from the city wall. 

Rothenberg at dusk.  It seems odd to have a ferris wheel in a city know for its medieval architecture.

The night watchman tour is a popular tour around the city where this man describes life in medieval times.  It was very crowded the evening we were there. Four LDS families from the US  approached us and told us they were on a family European vacation and talked with us about our mission. 

One of the towers in the city with a man in armor below.

This cage was used by the "Child Catcher" in the movie Chitty Chitty Bang Bang which was partially filmed in Rothenberg.

These Schneeball pastries look delicious but taste awful.  They are pastry dough covered with yummy toppings. Russell thought the sign saying Schneeballentraume (trauma) was appropriate. 

I bought this painting of Rothenberg from the man who painted it. He is 86 years old. 

Russell was excited to find this map of Germany. The original was made in 1742. The store owner said this was an etching made between WWI and WWII. 

This was the parking lot for our hotel. I think it is a former stable converted to parking lot.

This great violin player was playing in the park near the castle tower.

We heard organ music and out came the bride. A fairytale wedding, reminds me of the movie The Princess Bride.

PUTTING MY PROBLEMS INTO PERSPECTIVE

Mondays are Eileen’s least favorite day of the week.  It is the day we and the other three humanitarian missionary couples are required to be in town for Welfare Department and Humanitarian Division meetings.  Meeting with the other couples is great, perhaps the best part of our mission.  Since we have three regional (country) managers, while the other couples have just one, it means we can have up to five meetings that day.  In addition to the three regional managers, we have three humanitarian managers that direct our work.  As each of the six managers have their own unique views on our activities, navigating simultaneously their various directions can get complicated.

On Monday night, at FHE for the senior missionaries, President Peter Huber of the Europe Central Turkic and Persian-Speaking Mission (headquartered in Frankfurt), spoke about the growth of the Church in Turkey and among immigrants to German-speaking areas in Europe.   Listening to him caused us to compare the experiences missionaries are having there with what we are currently doing.

On Tuesday, we went to eat lunch at a table in our office.  Sitting there was a man who was finishing up a phone call.  We introduced ourselves and spent a few minutes getting to know Aleksey Tkachenko.  He is the Welfare and Self-Reliance Manager for Ukraine and Moldova.  He was in town to attend the meetings the last two weeks with our Area’s Welfare Department employees.  When I asked if he knew Kai Hintze, a member of our ward in Centerville and former DTA in the old Europe East Area, he lit up and said, “Yes, he hired me for my first position with the Church.”  He then went on to tell us how Kai had challenged him to go back to school and get a college degree.  Aleksey said both he and his wife now have master’s degrees because of Kai’s influence in his life.

Aleksey and his family currently live in the Ukraine.  Eileen started asking him about his life there and problems with the war.  As Aleksey was talking about effects of the war on his family and neighborhood near Kiev, he showed us pictures of war damage.  Suddenly, my problems didn’t seem quite so serious.   I am grateful for my problems and that I don’t need to worry about my family’s safety while living in an active war zone. 

                                      

                             Aleksey Tkachenko is the Welfare Self Reliance Manager in Ukraine. 

These are photos Aleksey shared with me of Kiev and the effects bombing had on his country. This is a photo of a children's clinic which was bombed.  He showed us some photos of pediatric oncology patients out side of a bombed out hospital. Most of the children were bald from their cancer treatments, and were wrapped in space blankets trying to stay warm.  

                             

President and Sister Huber served as humanitarian missionaries in Turkey from 2022-2024  organizing relief efforts after the earthquake. President Huber told of the remarkable efforts taking place in Turkey.  His presentation was informative and uplifting. However it would not be appropriate to share his insights on social media. 

                                                                                      

I didn't know Russell was taking this photo of me.  I have the "corner office" which I like. 

   

I (Eileen) play pickleball on Tuesdays and Wednesday mornings. It means I have to get up at 5:45.  It has been a fun social outlet. Sister Parks (far right) organizes the group as we have to drive 15 min to get to where we play.  She just found out last week she and her husband are being transferred to Manila where they will work with Mental Health for the missionaries.  I will really miss her as she has been a good friend.  

We took the Parks out for lunch on Saturday.  This huge bowl is a Parmigiana cheese wheel which has been hollowed out.  The waiter stirred hot pasta in the cheese wheel and the parmigiana cheese melted into the pasta. It was delicious.

                                       

This past week we had a seminar for all the WSR missionaries throughout the Europe Central Area. We were only invited to one morning session as the rest of the seminar didn't apply to our position.  It was fun seeing all the missionaries together. 

I am not sure why the person who planned catering thought American senior missionaries would eat raw hamburger on a sandwich.  The veggie sandwiches disappeared quickly. 

The infield couples from the different countries  received this booklet which will be shared with priesthood leaders. 

A DIFFERENT KIND OF MEAL

This last week we attended a conference of the Humanitarian Division of the Area Welfare Department.  The meeting is referred to as a MEAL conference, an acronym for Monitor, Evaluate, Account for and Learn.  These conferences are held maybe three times each year.  This was our first.  We had nine senior missionary couples attend, the eight from our Area plus Elder and Sister Ford who serve in Moldova.  Technically they are part of the Europe North Area; but since they are geographically closer to Frankfurt than London, they do quite a bit with our Area. The six employees associated with our division were also in attendance.  We covered a number of technical topics such as certain processes in CHaS (the Church Humanitarian (computer) System), a new NGO vetting process from HQ/SLC, and a new document for Church leaders outlining all of the welfare and self-reliance services that our department now has available to assist leaders and members in the Europe Central Area.  The question now is how long will it take before the local church leaders utilize the services?  The need is there, and we have senior missionaries available to help provide the services, but acceptance of new programs can be challenging for already overstretched local church leaders.   

In addition to the scheduled meeting activities, we also participated as a group in the Frankfurt JP Morgan Chase sponsored 5k.  Most of the seniors walked with the other estimated 73,000 who ran/walked the race.  We also attended a temple session together on Thursday.  This weekend, like several others in May was marked by another religious holiday – Corpus Christi. We used the time off to visit Krakow and see Elder and Sister Jarvis, the WSRS couple in Poland.  Like us, they had previously served in Frankfurt, where Sister Jarvis was an Area Mental Health Advisor. 

E & S Johnson hosted the Humanitarian couples for dinner last Sunday. From L-R,  E & S Sutterfield, Muelleck, Johnson,  Dodgen and Healy 

Sister Johnson planned and organized the MEAL conference which was held in the Area Office. 

                                 

Dinner with the couples and employees. 

   

We were encouraged VERY strongly to do the 5k.  After an hour of standing and waiting to start a few of the seniors were already having difficulties. 

    

We have an acronym for this "fun run".  INDIA as in I will never do it again. I guess it is good to say we have done it once. Part of our 73,000 new best friends. 

The Wieliczka Salt Mine was pretty incredible. We had to go down 800 stairs to reach the base of the mine which is 1073 feet below ground level. There are 245 km of winding galleries in this mine. It was excavated from the 13th century. Numerous statues carved from salt adorn the mine, including this one of Jesus with the pope in the background. 

A chamber within the salt mine with many salt carvings of the life of Jesus

This was one of the original cars used to transport jews to Auschwitz and Birkenau. 75 people were crammed into these train cars with no windows or places to relieve themselves.

              

Auschwitz is a very sobering reminder of man's inhumanity to their fellow man.

Original gas chamber at Auschwitz. 1500 people were killed at a time. It took 25 minutes to kill that many people. 

One of the plaques at Auschwitz identifying the ethnicity of the 1,100,000 people killed there.

I was so done with all the gold embossed everything in the church at Wawel Castle. I told Russell we needed to leave, when I stumbled on a small side room with the statue of the Christus there. It didn't fit with the rest of the church but I was happy to see it. 

I (Eileen) found my happy place in a store which sold Polish pottery. 

E & S Healy and Jarvis at the meetinghouse in Krakow. It was on the third floor of a building on a strip mall. A large group of BYU study abroad students came and there wasn't room for them in the meeting.

This video was shown to all the members of the Church in the Central Europe Area for the 5th Sunday in May second hour meeting. It is about Caring for the Poor and Needy. 

EVALUATION AND RESET

Eileen pointed out to me that this week we passed the quarter-way point of our 18-month mission.  Maybe it is just because I am getting older, but time seems to pass much quicker now.  Next week we have a four-day conference for the Europe Central Area humanitarian employees (4) and senior missionaries (16).  Both things caused me to consider the humanitarian work within the countries we look after and to evaluate our mission so far. 

Currently we have 30 projects at varying stages, from pre-approval development to final stage before formal closure.  This does not count the half-dozen that are “on the horizon” that we may or may not actually end up spending much time developing.  Of those 30, 10 are projects in central and southern Italy that we are in the final stages of closing.  Of the remaining 20, 12 have been started since we arrived.  Unlike our prior humanitarian missions where we were involved in a wide variety of project types, being assigned only relatively affluent western European countries, our projects are limited to just a few different types.  About 35% of our projects are food kitchens, 25% are dealing with homelessness and safe houses for women & children, 25% are education and integration efforts, and 15% with funding psychological or mental health services and access to medications.  My best guess is that 75% of our project’s end beneficiaries are refugees or migrants from Ukraine, the middle east, and Africa who now reside in western Europe.

With the way our assignment is structured, the Welfare field-couples in Italy, Austria and Germany have the face-to-face contact with the NGOs and beneficiaries.  The employees compare our respective roles to those in a restaurant, where the field-couples take the orders and deliver the food and we in the Area roles cook in the kitchen.  When I used to train humanitarian couples, I would describe the work as 20% meeting people (the best part - 10% at the beginning and 10% at the end of a project) and 80% office work.  We have the 80% on this mission. 

We have found a lot of joy here serving with the other senior missionaries in Frankfurt.  This is one of the reasons we have tried to have others over for dinner each Sunday afternoon.  Eileen has been going to early morning pickleball and swimming with a few of the other sister missionaries, and she will begin taking German language lessons later this month.  I’ve decided I need to look around and see what things I can do which may possibly make others around me happier and then follow through.  

In preparation for the conference next week, Elder and Sister Busath flew in on Friday afternoon from Tashkent, Uzbekistan.  They do not have the benefit of many other senior couples serving around them or access to western restaurants.  We decided to invite them out for dinner on Friday night and offered to take them somewhere on Saturday of their choosing.  We ended up going to a German restaurant on Friday, Heidelberg castle on Saturday, a Mexican restaurant on Saturday evening, doing their wash last night, and taking them to church with us today.  While it may have been of benefit to them, it has made both Eileen and I happy to be of service, and we have gained new friends!

Elders and Sisters Busath and Healy at Heidelberg

Overlooking Heidelberg

Russell and Elder Busath taking the funicular up the mountain

Heidelberg castle is extremely large, overlooking the city and the Neckar River.

Numerous statues adorn the outside of the castle. 

Overlooking Heidelberg

There were tables set up in one of the rooms for a wedding which was later in the day.
This was a theater built for Elizabeth Stuart by her husband 

The Alte Bruce Bridge was built in 1788

There were multiple beautiful stained glass windows dating back to the year 1604.

Overlooking the Heidelberg Castle. This castle was first started in the 13th century. Different pieces were added on until the 17th century. 

This funicular goes to the top of the mountain and it is over 100 years old